Everyone experiences stress and dissatisfaction at some point during their life, and we all have to deal with discontentment every now and then. But if you find yourself chronically unhappy, unfulfilled, or unable to cope with life’s demands, it might be time to take stock and reassess your goals and priorities.
Then, you can learn to identify and eliminate the things that are weighing you down. Below, hypnotherapist and mindset coach Don L. Price discusses a few things to stop doing that will improve your personal life:
Stop Feeling Stuck at Work
If your current employment is leaving you unfulfilled, or if you feel burned out or unappreciated at work, it may be time to consider a career change. Nowadays, there are many options available for advancing your career or making a complete change in employment. You can obtain a higher degree and climb the corporate ladder, or you can start on a new career path by enrolling in an online degree program.
Through online programs, you can get the master’s degree you need to get that promotion at work or make a complete career change by enrolling in classes that will open new employment opportunities. Make sure the online school you choose is accredited and that the tuition costs are reasonable. If your dream is to own your own business, you can certainly benefit from pursuing a degree.
Stop Dwelling on the Past
Even though dwelling on past events is not always unhealthy, doing it too much can hold youback and prevent you from improving your personal life. Perhaps you remember missing a person’s social cues and mishandling a situation. Maybe you spoke out of turn or made an inappropriate comment. Replaying past mistakes in your mind can bring up feelings of shame, embarrassment, or unease.
In turn, these feelings can prevent you from interacting with people and enjoying group activities like joining a sports league or a book club, or simply going out for a cup of coffee. Instead of spending your time and energy reliving past situations that you cannot change, learn from your mistakes, apologize to the offended party if you need to, and move on. Remember that everyone gets embarrassed once in a while, and what seems like a big deal to you probably seems pretty small to someone else.
Stop Saying “I Can’t”
Here we mean in the larger sense. Not just, “I can’t attend that meeting” or “I can’t leave work early.” Stop saying “I Can’t” to living life to its fullest. You have this one life to live. If you let feelings of inadequacy, a lack of confidence, doubt, fear or procrastination hold you back, how can you ever be true to yourself?
Yes, you can lose weight, you can stop smoking, you can face trauma, you can find new motivation and you can find self-confidence. It starts with reprogramming your brain. By changing your mindset, achieving what you’ve always wanted is well within reach. And you don’t have to do this alone! Through private hypnotherapy sessions and transformational mindset coaching with Don L. Price, you can remove obstacles, find inspiration and have greater control of your life.
Stop Trying to Do it All
Life gets busy and demanding. We often feel pressured to do everything and to do it perfectly. But all those demands that need to be met, whether at work or at home, can eat up large chunks of our time, and we end up with no time or energy for the things that would make us happy.
To free up some of your mind and time, try to prioritize your tasks—both at home and at work—and see which ones you can delegate, especially the ones you take no pleasure in doing. Do you hate cleaning? If your household budget allows, hire a housecleaner once or twice a month. Are you dreading yard work? Hire a gardener.
Free up and carve out some time for yourself, and use this time to do something you fully enjoy. Simplify your life by putting a stop to activities you don’t want to do, and reclaim that time for the things that boost your mood and add fulfillment to your life.
If you find yourself dissatisfied with your personal life, it’s time to make some changes. Find out what would improve your mood and lift your spirits, and work toward carving more time for yourself to do what you love. Improving your personal life will ultimately lead to a more fulfilling work and family life as well.
Repetition: Marketing and advertising have long used techniques based on Hypnosis.
Repetition: Savvy Marketers know that a repeated message can sink into the deepest subconscious level of a person’s mind.
Repetition of a message effectively triggers self-hypnosis that we begin to hum or sing those Madison Avenue advertising jingles. Example: When I say “Spearmint Gum,” your mind probably thought of “Double Your Flavor, Double Your Fun.” (for us older generation)
Competition is the hallmark of all Marketing and Sales.
It is essential to be focused, intense, and full of energy and motivation to be a success. Therefore, we can use Hypnosis in the same way Madison Avenue does.
They create their ads and advertise messages that propel us to more extraordinary achievement and peak performance. We all experience self-hypnosis frequently in everyday Life in such diverse activities as day-dreaming, jogging, prayer, reading, listening to music, meditation, or even driving the freeways.
Hypnosis offers a unique opportunity for the marketing and sales professionals and ourselves to give positive messages that will positively influence new thinking, attitudes, and behaviors.
Use Hypnosis to transform many of your fears, concerns, and anxieties into strengths.
Use self-hypnosis to change negative thoughts into positive action and watch your sales Life and career take a quantum leap.
Turn up the emotional heat to manifest your purpose in Life. You can imagine something and then display it in physical reality.
Four necessary steps for using the power of your imagination and four-word choices to guarantee your result,
First, here are the four steps for igniting your powers of imagination.
Decide, describe clearly what you want, and define your purpose for it.
Believe, Your mind will need to accept it to be true mentally in the present moment. Your subconscious only knows the present moment, never in the past or future. Never say I am going to have. To have what you want. You first see it and feel yourself being, doing, and experiencing it now.
See it in your mind. Your imagination is the eye of your mind. Learn to see so clearly that you could reach out and touch it.
Feel it deeply in your heart and body. When your imagination, compassion, and body energies are aligned with what you want, nothing is impossible to manifest in your Life. Next, take action on what you want. Want a new car, a new home, or a better job? Visit a dealership showroom, property of your liking, and a company you are interested in. While there, experience it thoroughly so that you may re-live what you want mentally and emotionally as if it has already happened.
Words create mental imagery, and the right choices will guarantee your result,
Use words with emotional impact.
Emotion is what stirs the subconscious mind to act in the present tense: the fewer words you use to convey an image and emotion, the better. Example: I am a money magnet. In the present moment. Vs. I enjoy creating a lot of money to spend. Is future moment
Use a short word that has the same meaning.
The meaning is the same, but the one with half the words efficiently has twice the attention-getting power. Example: I am Healthy in Body and Mind Vs. My body and mind are becoming healthier every day.
Is there a word that sounds better and still conveys the correct meaning?
A string of words that begin with the same first letter, the same sound, or that create a pleasing rhythm or rhyme is more captivating than a random collection of sounds. For example, in Repetition, there is music and rhythm to language. And words repeated to the subconscious mind are like music on Steroids. I am healthier and healthier and healthier.
Is there a word or phrase that communicates a desirable mental visual? The mind thinks in pictures. You are the artist, and words are your palette. The images you paint to your subconscious mind create the emotions and feeling that move you into taking action on your purpose in Life.
Do you seem sad during the winter months? Do you sleep longer, or are you visited by lonely thoughts more often?
Keeping your head above water during the winter can be a struggle, especially for those impacted by seasonal affective disorder (and especially during a global pandemic, but there are ways to surmount it and live a fulfilled life.
Seasonal affective disorder (also known as SAD) is a type of depression generally associated with the passing of the seasons, particularly the winter months. Reduced light, less access to vitamin D, and fewer opportunities to get outside and enjoy the fresh air — are potential reasons that it just feels more gloomy for some folks during this time of year.
There is science behind that gloom. Medical researchers hypothesize that this disorder has to do with decreased amounts of serotonin (a brain chemical that affects your mood) and higher amounts of melatonin (which regulates sleep). Around 1 to 2 percent of people have been diagnosed with SAD, whereas 10 to 20 percent of people experience a milder form of the “winter blues.” This year, amid the global pandemic, more people may become susceptible to SAD, as there was plenty to be stressed about before the cold set in. Now that all of these stressors are coming together, it might serve you a dangerous cocktail of brain chemicals.
How to tell if you (or a friend) is suffering from SAD
There are a few ways to know if you or your close friends are suffering from the changing seasons. An increased level of anxiety, mood shifts, generally gloomy feeling, and sleeping more are signs of depression — but SAD occurs like clockwork around the colder, darker months. Pay attention to your thoughts, your emotions, and those of the people around you.
What can you do?
Fighting back against seasonal depression can be daunting, but it’s possible when you focus on yourself and observe some self-care practices you may have been neglecting. For instance, get some sunlight. One of the proven symptoms of SAD is the lack of serotonin in your brain, and the sun helps you build that particular chemical and vitamin D levels and can help you stave off depression. Open your blinds and let the winter sun into your room. Or, turn to technology and invest in a lightbox specifically designed to treat the symptoms of SAD.
Another way you can stave off feelings of anxiety is by cleaning your home. Yes, cleaning. When family members are being negative or critical, or when you are experiencing unwanted tension, decluttering a messy space and cleaning can inject positivity into your home.
Hypnosis, like the kind used by mindset coach Don L. Price, can also be a powerful tool to help you re-focus on yourself and your own needs. It has been shown to improve self-confidence, relaxation, and motivation and can help control anxiety. As a result, hypnotherapy and mindset coaching can be important ways to fight seasonal depression and regain control of your emotions. Mindset coaching can help you get into the right headspace to expel self-doubt and negative feelings.
Feeling SAD? Take steps in the right direction.
Are you ready to take control of your anxiety, stave off seasonal affective disorder, and feel calmer in your everyday life? Hypnotherapy may be the right course of action for you. Contact celebrated hypnotherapist and mental health coach Don L. Price for more information today!
Everything in life is first created in your mind and becomes your reality! The opinions and images you hold about yourself, self-image, self-respect, and self-love are probably your essential opinions. It determines how you act, your success in life, what you do, and your actions.
Look in the mirror! How do you see yourself in your mind? Do you picture yourself as inhibited or sociable, hopeless or talented, affectionate or unfriendly, confident or unsure, fearful or fearless?
The pictures and images you hold of yourself are firmly embedded in your subconscious mind (referred to as your habit mind). They have been developed through control, manipulation, and domination from your parental and environmental conditioning and experience from birth to age six. You may not even be aware of it.
Our life is a reflection of our past. It may be encouraging and helpful or burdensome and damaging.
If fear, anxiety, or lack of confidence is part of the images held in your mind, they’re almost certainly getting in the way of who you’d like to be.
But here’s the good news. Through self-hypnosis, you can change the snapshot you carry of yourself. You’ll see benefits in all areas of your life when you do. Because if there’s such a thing as a shortcut to self-improvement, changing your self-image is it:
Hypnosis is an induced state of mind or altered state of consciousness during which the subject becomes receptive to suggestion. The skilled professional hypnotist instructs at timed intervals to a cooperative subject to create this state of mind and being. With expert instruction and training, you will learn to induce and control this state of mind yourself. Self-hypnosis.
Self-Hypnosis is a learning process. You will be putting techniques for self-improvement into practical application. The Self-Hypnosis course will instruct you to become a competent, productive, and happier person. This growth invites your full cooperation and willingness to learn. Indeed, you will not simply know and expand in all areas of your life through these exercises.
This course teaches relaxation techniques and suggestions for changing behavior with improvement in attitude. Our systems are designed to aid in vocational and recreational pursuits and help change undesirable habits.
You’ll learn using proven techniques for meditative relaxation will permit the subconscious mind to become responsive to positive suggestions. It has been found that with the process of visualization and positive imagery in a relaxed or hypnotic state, a permanent ascent into a more creative and comfortable living experience can become a reality. At no time under hypnosis does one “go to sleep.”
The induced relaxation permits the conscious mind’s analytical areas to become receptive to suggestions, images, and reinforcement.
The word “auto” is from the Greek word “self”; hence “self-hypnosis” can also be called “auto-suggestion” or “self-suggestion.”
Your enthusiasm for learning self-hypnosis is essential and will significantly enhance your capacity to become proficient in this ancient and beneficial science.
The following material will further explain this phenomenon and describe the hypnotic state, your response to the suggestion, the makeup of your mind, and many practical uses for self-hypnosis.
The mind is composed basically of two parts:
The Conscious Mind, sometimes called the objective, or analytical mind makes up approximately seven to ten percent of the mind.
The Subconscious Mind, also called the unconscious or subjective mind occupies the remaining ninety to ninety-three percent of the mind.
The conscious mind has partial control of the nervous system and muscle action. Everyone has slowed persons breathing and heart rate or affected muscular reaction by using the conscious mind, the voluntary portion of the mind.
The conscious mind has the responsibility of organizing the mental process to cope effectively with reality. The conscious mind receives messages from the senses and uses them to decide to accept or reject the incoming information. The conscious mind makes day-to-day decisions. It is also the guardian of suggestions that enter the subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind is where the conscience resides. Most of us think of the conscience as stemming from a religious doctrine, parental training, or both. It consisted of our intellectual and spiritual concepts of right and wrong derived from and believed acceptable by our society. It serves as a policeman regulating our behavior.
We are aware of our conscience when we think of or commit an act contrary to our long-held beliefs, precepts, or moral code, conflict within, and the conscience tells us so with uneasy and uncomfortable pangs and inner pain. From these painful feelings can spring guilt, frustration, and anxiety.
On the other hand, if we plan or enact an excellent experience that is in keeping with our standards and values, then we feel “good” about ourselves and find life at that instant more meaningful. The conscience is not altered in a state of hypnosis. Either way, it remains active and functional.
The subconscious mind controls the autonomic nervous system and regulates and coordinates heart function, glandular activity, muscular movements, etc. It is the coordination of this complex yet well-functioning process that keeps each person alive and healthy.
When a person is unconscious through anesthesia, shock, coma, or injury, the subconscious state of mind does not inhibit anybody’s function for its own protection and well-being.
The subconscious is a vast storehouse of knowledge, impulse, and experience accumulated since birth. Everything a person has seen, heard, smelled, felt, and experienced since birth is recorded in the subconscious mind. The mind can be compared to a computer. Exploratory brain stimulation by surgeons and case studies of hypnotized subjects has demonstrated that memories are stored, not forgotten.
As you begin practicing self-hypnosis, you will become very aware of the subconscious and recognize it as a compelling state of mind that can tap into a wealth of experience and change attitudes, habits, and behavior.
It is generally agreed from available research that the subconscious is non-judgmental.
Like a computer, it will respond to whatever is programmed into it. On the conscious level, a person rationalizes and probes values, standards, and ethics—the subconscious stores the conscience’s rules and codes without defining good, bad, right, or wrong.
The subconscious stores and maintains all habits and attitudes, appropriate or inappropriate, good or bad.
Hypnosis is a normal state of mind and one that we experience many times a day. We experience hypnosis when watching a movie or television, daydreaming, or in the transitional state of going to sleep or waking up. It is possible to experience a hypnotic state while reading or listening to music.
Consider your behavior the last time you attended a movie. A succession of two-dimensional photo images portrayed a real-life experience, and you experienced all the emotions of the portrayal as a real-life experience. When you left the theatre, everything looked unfamiliar and unreal, and you had to reorient your conscious mind to the real world: the better the performance, the more profound the experience. During a movie, we experience the hypnotic state.
Our conscious minds are concentrated on identifying the changing forms of light; the subconscious supplies information from our own life experiences to utilize, magnify, and enjoy our images. Hypnosis. We construct a meaningful and continuous interpretation of the movie. After the performance, we again free our conscious minds to function in the real world.
PRACTICAL USES OF SELF-HYPNOSIS
Hypnosis is a powerful tool. When coupled with the appropriate suggestion, it can affect unbelievable changes in a person: changes in altered bodily functions to permanent behavior changes. This self-hypnosis course is useful to anyone who wishes to redirect and improve their attitude and behavior.
The primary motivation factors, relaxation, goal orientation, and self-confidence, are covered expertly in our courses. The unique ability to use self-hypnosis as needed continuingly for self-development is thoroughly explored throughout the instructional period.
Once you have mastered self-hypnosis techniques, you have them for the rest of your life to be used by you for increased self-understanding and improvement. What you will learn can be used in all areas of your life.
INSOMNIA There are many causes of this unfortunate illness. Fear of death can be the cause. Sometimes, the fear of going to sleep (oblivion) prevents conscious and subconscious relaxation necessary for rest.
The mind is so complex that something frightening said to a child of three by an unthinking adult can penetrate the subconscious of that child, be totally forgotten (repressed), and emerge many years later as a cause for “insomnia.”
Physicians, especially surgeons, are now more alert to what they say in the presence of an unconscious or anesthetized patient. The subconscious seems to have ears even when the person is insensible and cold. Insomnia is a habit that can cause mental fatigue, loss of appetite, weight loss, a lessening of the powers of concentration, and many other serious problems.
THERE IS GOOD NEWS AND BAD NEWS ABOUT INSOMNIA.
About 25 percent of Americans experience acute insomnia each year. Still, about 75 percent of these individuals recover without developing persistent poor sleep or chronic insomnia, with seniors experiencing the highest percentage of insomnia, according to a study from researchers at the Perelman School of Medicine at the University of Pennsylvania.
While that may sound daunting to seniors, it’s also reassuring to know that you are not alone in your struggle to overcome insomnia.
IDENTIFYING WHAT THE SYMPTOMS ARE:
Many insomnia cases result from eating too late at night, causing discomfort, indigestion, irritability in your nervous system, and chronic breathing problems, which are physical and can keep you awake.
Some of the biggest problems change in a job, school, and money worries are significant factors for insomnia. Losing a relationship or loved one is emotionally devastating and a huge factor for insomnia.
Poor sleep habits also is a significant factor in modern society. Innovations in technology have created a myriad of stressors for developing insomnia. Example. Blue light emitted from digital devices with screens (cell phones, computers, televisions) has proven to be an enemy of sleep.
COMMON DAYTIME AND NIGHTTIME SYMPTOMS:
Symptoms we experience during the day:
High levels of anxiety
Lack of energy
Feeling exhausted after waking
Easily stressed and anxious
Symptoms we experience during the night:
constant tossing and turning
unable to fall asleep
unable to stay asleep
The average insomniac shows the world deep shadows around the eyes, a lackluster look, and neurotic tendencies that compound over time if no help is obtained. Many insomniacs blame a “busy mind” or “this hectic existence.” Such people will actually “plan” on staying awake.
Insomnia is LEARNED. With the most exacting logic, reasoning, and reality testing, a person decides to stay awake – it is only through planning and practice that one becomes an insomniac.
Through instruction in self-hypnosis, the insomniac will learn to sleep like a bear in a cave in a short time (usually within six weeks).
NO DRUGS are necessary.
As no drugs are required, no addiction or side effects will occur.
Without question, hypnosis is the safest and most effective therapy for insomnia known. It is considered by some therapists (usually of the analytical school) that treatment should be administered to uncover hidden or repressed childhood traumas that may (or may not) be the case in insomnia. Still, we have yet to see proof that this approach is necessary except in extreme cases.
A majority of insomniacs need to overcome a distressful habit. Dr. Victor Frankl, a Viennese psychiatrist and neurologist who suffered years of Nazi concentration camp torture when freed wrote “Man’s Search for Meaning” and other books. He introduced “logo” therapy.
In this therapy, Dr. Frankl urged his patients to try to do the very act they found uncomfortable or distasteful. In the case of insomnia, he suggested chatting with his patients “try to stay awake.” This approach he called “paradoxical intention.”
His books have significantly contributed to psychology, and he was one of the first to urge a departure from medicine’s usual method of administering sedatives.
Hypnosis, however, seems to be a more “normal” method since it simply encourages relaxation, and as the insomniac is occupied with hypnotic techniques, he will fall asleep. As in most behavioral changes, it is replacing a bad habit with a good one or substituting something positive and healthy for a pattern that hitherto had been negative and unhealthy.
What caused insomnia in the first place and what psychological disturbance maintained the habit pattern is unimportant at this point. The fact is that hypnosis can provide a method so that an insomniac can successfully get a typical night’s rest and eventually overcome a debilitating habit.
Why hypnosis is not used more generously by the psychiatric branch of medicine for many problems, including insomnia, is challenging to understand.
You, as a sympathetic listener, will first probe your client for any history of childhood trauma that may have caused the problem.
A TYPICAL QUESTION IS:
“Why do you think you cannot fall asleep easily at night?”
And the usual answer is, “My mind is active. Things keep going around in my mind. I am aware that this is keeping me awake, but I can’t control my thoughts; I seem to have so much on my mind that I can’t get to sleep.”
Another answer may be, “I’m in a tough business. I have so many problems at the office (shop, store, home, college, etc.) that I can’t seem to turn them off when I want to sleep.”
The primary purpose of the hypnotist’s question is to get the clients to talk about their problems. As the client talks, note the number of times they say, “I can’t.”
Note the conditioned habit pattern demonstrated by the “I can’t.” True, this game can be played with anyone no matter the problem, but the insomniac will always be the prize “I can’t.” And this is why, when your clients try to sleep, they will continue to toss and turn – hating the world, society, their job – but more significantly, themselves.
The process of initial relaxation, as taught in beginning self-hypnosis, will come as a welcome relief to most insomniacs, who usually make excellent hypnotic subjects for the simple reason they are tired from loss of sleep and are generally becoming neurotic about the problem.
They will generally welcome the soothing commands of a professional hypnotist. The word “sleep” should be used repeatedly during induction. The same techniques are used in treating insomnia, of course, as in any other form of relaxation training. The insomniac, however, always stresses self-hypnosis.
In your discussion, persuade the client that they are doing this, and you are only a guide. This must be repeated many times to transfer any reliance upon you to the client.
Show the greatest admiration for any progress, and praise him for his excellence as a subject.
The praise and empathic relationship are beneficial from a reward-reinforcement base upon which to dissuade the negative pattern from continuing. As in the case of all habit changes, the replacement with a positive and emotionally satisfying habit will correct the unhappy state of insomnia.
Suggestibility by the hypnotist becomes fact to the insomniac as he recovers from his affliction. Much of this comes from the subject themself as they come to “believe.”
The hypnotist suggests, soothes, and softly persuades relaxation and concentration. Usually, the rapid technique, i.e., counting to three, will administer the corrective way to sleep.
We advise practicing two to three times a day in the relaxing techniques and finding that eight sessions with the hypnotist will make the insomniac sleep soundly. In the beginning, most insomniacs will not believe that hypnosis will correct their affliction, and most will frankly admit that coming to a professional hypnotist is a last resort. Most will have tried drugs, counting sheep, reading poetry, and drinking all kinds of milk elixirs in desperate efforts to get a night’s sleep.
Therefore, while you will be most reassuring, nevertheless stress that SELF-hypnosis will do the trick and not some outside agency or magic.
Place the responsibility right where it belongs.
This usually has a sobering effect on the client, and they will begin to see just how much, by habit, is responsible for insomnia. As your sessions progress, you will see the practice paying off – the eyes will be more alert, a quickening step, and a more confident attitude.
Always be quick to praise your client and urge them to recognize the progress made in a short time. Also, stress the “here and now” experience and counsel your client not to dwell on past errors, mistakes, sins, or fears. Instead, the excellent vigor of the present moment and the existentialistic exercise must be emphasized.
Dismiss references to the past as futile, and bolster any sagging will with “here and now” psychology. Your optimism is the insomniac’s tonic for confidence, faith, and relaxation. Trust and peace are inseparable and are dually self-supportive. Encouragement invites belief – disbelief has maintained the unhappy state of affairs. Be very careful of the words you use to an insomniac during induction.
For sales motivation and improved work habits, hypnotists use the words “dynamic, aggressive,” and so on, but they should never be used in the case of insomnia. You must tailor your comments to the client’s needs and beware of stereotyping your induction for all who come to you.
The conscientious hypnotist always seeks to accommodate the client’s needs, especially during induction. Words are symbols with meanings, remember and invoke a reaction (good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative) from your client.
It has been found that it is wise to emphasize deep breathing during induction for an insomniac.
Studies have shown that many people hold their breath when “trying hard” to sleep. One recent study indicated that several insomniacs were so concerned with getting to sleep that they “forgot” to breathe.
Therefore, have your client not only breathe deeply at the initial phase of induction but continually remind him that he is to breathe deeply and rhythmically. As we know, a more focused concentration on breathing also acts as a hypnotic technique for sleep or somnambulism, so it has a double benefit.
When you think of self-hypnosis, what comes to mind? A swinging pocket watch? A vaudeville act? The words ‘You’re getting sleepy…’? Not even close.
“In the field of self-hypnosis and hypnotherapy, there are scores of verbal and nonverbal ways to induce the desired state, but none require props — no lights, no candles, no Hypno-discs, no crystal balls, no pendulums. Hypnosis does rely on relaxation, but sleep is not the goal. And the guy in the black suit and Freudian facial hair? Not needed. Hypnosis is something you can do by yourself, for yourself.
“Hypnosis is nothing more than a state of mind that lets you become responsive to suggestions. When you can induce it in yourself and keep those suggestions positive, the benefits of your life will astound you. You will learn the basics of the technique.”
Your Two-Part Mind
Your mind has two parts: the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. Each has a different task:
The conscious mind is objective and analytical and makes up approximately 7–10% of the mind. It has partial control of the nervous system and muscle action. When you deliberately slow your breathing or your heart rate, your conscious mind is in command.
The conscious mind is also the part that organizes our mental processes to lets us cope with reality. It takes incoming messages to the senses and decides whether to accept or reject the information. We use this part of our minds to make day-to-day decisions, and it’s the guardian of the suggestions that enter the subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind makes up the remaining 90–93% of the mind. It controls the autonomic nervous system, regulating heart function, breathing, glandular activity, and other organ and muscle functions. When you’re unconscious for any reason, your subconscious mind is still at work, keeping you alive and well.
The subconscious is a vast storehouse of knowledge, impulse, and experience accumulated since birth. Everything you’ve ever heard, smelled, felt, and experienced is stored in your subconscious.
The subconscious is nonjudgmental. It simply stores and maintains all habits and attitudes, appropriate or inappropriate, good or bad. Self-hypnosis allows you to access this databank and change what’s there.
The 3 Steps to Self-Hypnosis
Successful self-hypnosis relies on three things:
In self-hypnosis, relaxation doesn’t mean taking a nap. It means becoming deliberately relaxed in mind and body, escaping momentarily from the cares of the day, to create the receptive state necessary for auto-suggestion.
First, set up each practice session this way:
Select a comfortable chair in which you are at ease.
Remove or loosen any tight clothing — neckties, belts, etc.
Turn off radios and televisions, and turn off your cell phone.
If you have pets, put them in another room.
Place both feet on the floor or a footrest.
Uncross your legs and arms.
Look at the clock. Note what time it is, and then imagine that it’s 15 minutes later. For example, if you’ve chosen to practice at 6:00, imagine that the time is 6:15. With repeated practice, you’ll find yourself opening your eyes after your session at the exact time you’ve imagined.
Next, follow these relaxation techniques:
Begin every session with three deep breaths, and as you exhale, think silently and inwardly; I am relaxing. Close your eyes and feel yourself relaxing from the top of your head to the tips of your toes.
Think to yourself. Any outside noises, sounds, and confusion only cause me to go deeper and deeper into this wonderfully creative state of deep relaxation. Concentrate on your toes. Feel a tingling sensation there and imagine this sensation spreading across the bottom of your feet and up your legs to envelop your entire body completely.
Take your time — feel this wonderful feeling of relaxation spreading slowly up your back and around to your abdominal muscles, up to your chest to your neck, scalp, and eyelids, and then to your facial muscles and entire head. You will now recognize that you’re completely bathed in the feeling of relaxation.
As you communicate with yourself, use your own thoughts and words as often as possible, but be sure to include the words “deep,” “relaxed,” and “relaxation.” After you’re relaxed, don’t be concerned with whether or not you’re hypnotizing yourself. Follow through with the relaxation procedures. If you feel a bit drowsy, that’s fine.
Time Out to Try It
No time like the present. No matter what you’re doing, being relaxed will help. Loosen that belt, make yourself comfortable, and take those three deep breaths. See how relaxed you can become using the techniques you’ve just learned.
Welcome back from your mini-vacation. While you’re good and relaxed, let’s move on to the next step. In your daily sessions, to help you develop your imagination, practice producing these sensations:
After approximately 5 to 7 minutes of relaxation, take 2 to 3 minutes to feel heavy. Imagine that you’re made of lead or weighed down by G-forces in a climbing jet.
Next, take 2 or 3 minutes to feel light. Imagine how it would feel to be an astronaut, floating in weightlessness. Or feel yourself floating right off the chair.
Next, take 2 or 3 minutes to feel warm. Imagine yourself in a sauna or steam room, or feel the sun on a sweltering day. Relate to an experience you’ve had. Your memory and imagination will do the rest.
Now take 2 or 3 minutes to feel cool. Imagine yourself in the snow or a cold swimming pool. Again, relate to physical sensations you’ve previously experienced.
Finally, imagine how you would like to think, feel, act, and react today, or, if you’re practicing at night, imagine how you wish to be tomorrow.
Time Out to Try It
Stop again, and try to produce one or more of the sensations described above. See how well your mind can guide your body.
To conclude your practice session, always include a post-hypnotic suggestion, such as “Each time I hypnotize myself, I relax more easily and freely. I look forward to practicing every day because I enjoy it.”
Then, to bring yourself back to a normal state of mind, count from one to six, using a phrase with each number. For instance:
I am feeling wonderful
I feel energized and vital
I feel light, elevated, and exceptionally clear-headed
I am alert and feeling refreshed
I readily accept and respond to my own suggestions. I enjoy practicing daily.
I am wide awake — wide awake, feeling wonderful.
Feel free to substitute any other phrases with which you are most comfortable.
In constructing suggestions, always think in terms of the result. Tell yourself what you do want, not what you don’t want. And always think in the first person, present tense — “I am.”
It takes time to see the results of self-hypnosis. With repetition, and only with repetition, the mind internalizes suggestions and reshapes behaviors and attitudes. Advertisers know and rely on this principle — how many commercials do you see just once?
As you use the techniques you’ve learned in this module, you’ll be able to abbreviate or eliminate some of them or even substitute others. Select the techniques that work best for you and make you the most comfortable. It would help if you enjoyed whatever techniques you choose because your own enthusiasm for learning self-hypnosis will determine how regularly you practice, and that will determine how much you benefit from it.