Everything in Life is First Created in Your Mind and Becomes Your reality!

Everything in life is first created in your mind and becomes your reality! The opinions and images you hold about yourself, self-image, self-respect, and self-love are probably your essential opinions. It determines how you act, your success in life, what you do, and your actions.

Look in the mirror! How do you see yourself in your mind? Do you picture yourself as inhibited or sociable, hopeless or talented, affectionate or unfriendly, confident or unsure, fearful or fearless?

⁣The pictures and images you hold of yourself are firmly embedded in your subconscious mind (referred to as your habit mind). They have been developed through control, manipulation, and domination from your parental and environmental conditioning and experience from birth to age six. You may not even be aware of it.

Our life is a reflection of our past. It may be encouraging and helpful or burdensome and damaging.

If fear, anxiety, or lack of confidence is part of the images held in your mind, they’re almost certainly getting in the way of who you’d like to be.⁣

But here’s the good news. Through self-hypnosis, you can change the snapshot you carry of yourself. You’ll see benefits in all areas of your life when you do. Because if there’s such a thing as a shortcut to self-improvement, changing your self-image is it:

Hypnosis is an induced state of mind or altered state of consciousness during which the subject becomes receptive to suggestion. The skilled professional hypnotist instructs at timed intervals to a cooperative subject to create this state of mind and being. With expert instruction and training, you will learn to induce and control this state of mind yourself. Self-hypnosis.

Self-Hypnosis is a learning process. You will be putting techniques for self-improvement into practical application. The Self-Hypnosis course will instruct you to become a  competent, productive, and happier person. This growth invites your full cooperation and willingness to learn. Indeed, you will not simply know and expand in all areas of your life through these exercises.

This course teaches relaxation techniques and suggestions for changing behavior with improvement in attitude. Our systems are designed to aid in vocational and recreational pursuits and help change undesirable habits.

You’ll learn using proven techniques for meditative relaxation will permit the subconscious mind to become responsive to positive suggestions. It has been found that with the process of visualization and positive imagery in a relaxed or hypnotic state, a permanent ascent into a more creative and comfortable living experience can become a reality. At no time under hypnosis does one “go to sleep.”

The induced relaxation permits the conscious mind’s analytical areas to become receptive to suggestions, images, and reinforcement.

The word “auto” is from the Greek word “self”; hence “self-hypnosis” can also be called “auto-suggestion” or “self-suggestion.”

Your enthusiasm for learning self-hypnosis is essential and will significantly enhance your capacity to become proficient in this ancient and beneficial science.

The following material will further explain this phenomenon and describe the hypnotic state, your response to the suggestion, the makeup of your mind, and many practical uses for self-hypnosis.


The mind is composed basically of two parts:

  1. The Conscious Mind, sometimes called the objective, or analytical mind makes up approximately seven to ten percent of the mind.
  2. The Subconscious Mind, also called the unconscious or subjective mind occupies the remaining ninety to ninety-three percent of the mind.

The conscious mind has partial control of the nervous system and muscle action. Everyone has slowed persons breathing and heart rate or affected muscular reaction by using the conscious mind, the voluntary portion of the mind.

The conscious mind has the responsibility of organizing the mental process to cope effectively with reality. The conscious mind receives messages from the senses and uses them to decide to accept or reject the incoming information. The conscious mind makes day-to-day decisions. It is also the guardian of suggestions that enter the subconscious mind.

The subconscious mind is where the conscience resides. Most of us think of the conscience as stemming from a religious doctrine, parental training, or both. It consisted of our intellectual and spiritual concepts of right and wrong derived from and believed acceptable by our society. It serves as a policeman regulating our behavior.

We are aware of our conscience when we think of or commit an act contrary to our long-held beliefs, precepts, or moral code, conflict within, and the conscience tells us so with uneasy and uncomfortable pangs and inner pain. From these painful feelings can spring guilt, frustration, and anxiety.

On the other hand, if we plan or enact an excellent experience that is in keeping with our standards and values, then we feel “good” about ourselves and find life at that instant more meaningful. The conscience is not altered in a state of hypnosis. Either way, it remains active and functional.

The subconscious mind controls the autonomic nervous system and regulates and coordinates heart function, glandular activity, muscular movements, etc. It is the coordination of this complex yet well-functioning process that keeps each person alive and healthy.

When a person is unconscious through anesthesia, shock, coma, or injury, the subconscious state of mind does not inhibit anybody’s function for its own protection and well-being.

The subconscious is a vast storehouse of knowledge, impulse, and experience accumulated since birth. Everything a person has seen, heard, smelled, felt, and experienced since birth is recorded in the subconscious mind. The mind can be compared to a computer. Exploratory brain stimulation by surgeons and case studies of hypnotized subjects has demonstrated that memories are stored, not forgotten.

As you begin practicing self-hypnosis, you will become very aware of the subconscious and recognize it as a compelling state of mind that can tap into a wealth of experience and change attitudes, habits, and behavior.

It is generally agreed from available research that the subconscious is non-judgmental.

Like a computer, it will respond to whatever is programmed into it. On the conscious level, a person rationalizes and probes values, standards, and ethics—the subconscious stores the conscience’s rules and codes without defining good, bad, right, or wrong.

The subconscious stores and maintains all habits and attitudes, appropriate or inappropriate, good or bad.

Hypnosis is a normal state of mind and one that we experience many times a day. We experience hypnosis when watching a movie or television, daydreaming, or in the transitional state of going to sleep or waking up. It is possible to experience a hypnotic state while reading or listening to music.

Consider your behavior the last time you attended a movie. A succession of two-dimensional photo images portrayed a real-life experience, and you experienced all the emotions of the portrayal as a real-life experience. When you left the theatre, everything looked unfamiliar and unreal, and you had to reorient your conscious mind to the real world: the better the performance, the more profound the experience. During a movie, we experience the hypnotic state.

Our conscious minds are concentrated on identifying the changing forms of light; the subconscious supplies information from our own life experiences to utilize, magnify, and enjoy our images. Hypnosis. We construct a meaningful and continuous interpretation of the movie. After the performance, we again free our conscious minds to function in the real world.


Hypnosis is a powerful tool. When coupled with the appropriate suggestion, it can affect unbelievable changes in a person: changes in altered bodily functions to permanent behavior changes. This self-hypnosis course is useful to anyone who wishes to redirect and improve their attitude and behavior.

The primary motivation factors, relaxation, goal orientation, and self-confidence, are covered expertly in our courses. The unique ability to use self-hypnosis as needed continuingly for self-development is thoroughly explored throughout the instructional period.

Once you have mastered self-hypnosis techniques, you have them for the rest of your life to be used by you for increased self-understanding and improvement. What you will learn can be used in all areas of your life.


The Power of Selection

Problem-Solving:  Oddly enough, for many, there is rarely a day that goes by where we procrastinate making decisions because we experience a scarcity of self-doubt.

The criteria set, while rising up into adulthood, had most people depending on others – parents, educators, and relatives – for direction and guidance that set our self-image and degrees of confidence up. During this time period, we experienced. As a result, we rebelled or we succumb to the expectations of other people – looking for approval to them — embedding in us anticipation levels of perfectionism and forming our self-image.

As adults, to act in a world, requires that we be less dependent on appearing to others for acceptance. The drive to win approval, through perfection, sets in also a stressful existence and movement procrastination. We begin to build our inner strength of self-confidence when we shed the notion that we have to live up to the expectation of others being perfect.

Then problem-solving and decision-making, becomes second nature to us, as soon as we overcome the dearth of self-confidence and feelings of self-doubt. True self-confidence comes around to having the willingness to change that which we choose and understanding our abilities. “Change” is a word that runs the gambit of drugging up feelings out of anger, bitterness, bitterness, and pain to happiness, relief, and pleasure.

Bringing everything into consideration, you and I and everyone else in this world are in the problem-solving business – and to succeed in delivering problem-solving solutions. Therefore allow me to say that living in an economy in which you can win large simply by out thinking the contest — self-confidence and decision-making are paramount to success.

Now, allow me to give you an example of someone who embodies such traits of self-confidence and problem-solving.

Frederick W. Smith, Chairman, President, and CEO, FedEx Corp. Using a clearinghouse, along with a method of dissemination, allowed FedEx to deliver, point-to-point, anywhere in the United States — absolutely, positively overnight. Smith explained: “We believed that we had been selling the transportation of goods; in fact, we had promoted peace of mind.” – Fred Smith’s focus and self-confidence have been a force in his invention and problem-solving solutions.

Here are several ways for boosting your self-confidence and problem-solving abilities based on Brian M. Alman and Peter Lambrou, Ph.D.’s

    • First name which area of your life spawns the greatest self-doubt, the least self-confidence. – Your work, folks of the opposite sex, parents, a boss, partner, etc..
    • Second, select that area you want to work on the first. Set and concentrate on one particular circumstance.
    • Third, go to a state of relaxation to do some examination. Imagine an old scenario with somebody whose approval you hunted, but now imagine a new action stemming from the perceptions of behavior.
    • Forth, where you had self-doubt, now see yourself with self-confidence giving yourself positive self-suggestion to strengthen the change that you would like to achieve.
    • Fifth, to change, which comes from within you and should have little influence or expect from you should have a desire for your achievement.


The Power of Love

The Power of Love is the best antidepressant—but many of our ideas about it are wrong. The less love you have, the more depressed you are likely to feel.

Love is as critical for your mind and body as oxygen. It’s not negotiable. The more connected you are, the healthier you will be both physically and emotionally. The less connected you are, the more you are at risk.

It is also true that the less love you have, the more depression you are likely to experience in your life. Love is probably the best antidepressant there is because one of the most common sources of depression is feeling unloved. Most depressed people don’t love themselves and they do not feel loved by others. They also are very self-focused, making them less attractive to others and depriving them of opportunities to learn the skills of love.

There is a mythology in our culture that love just happens. As a result, the depressed often sit around passively waiting for someone to love them. But love doesn’t work that way. To get love and keep the love you have to go out and be active and learn a variety of specific skills.

Most of us get our ideas of love from popular culture. We come to believe that love is something that sweeps us off our feet. But the pop-culture idea of love consists of unrealistic images created for entertainment, which is one reason so many of us are set up to be depressed. It’s part of our national vulnerability, like eating junk food, constantly stimulated by images of instant gratification. We think it is love when it’s simply distraction and infatuation.

One consequence is that when we hit real love we become upset and disappointed because there are many things that do not fit the cultural ideal. Some of us get demanding and controlling, wanting someone else to do what we think our ideal of romance should be, without realizing our ideal is misplaced.

It is not only possible but necessary to change one’s approach to love to ward off depression. Follow these action strategies to get more of what you want out of life—to love and be loved.

Limerence (a state of mind which results from a romantic attraction to another person and typically includes obsessive thoughts and fantasies) is that the first stage of mad attraction whereby all the hormones are flowing and things feel so right. Limerence lasts, on average, six months. It can progress to love. Love mostly starts out as limerance, but limerence doesn’t always evolve into love. If you don’t learn the skills of love you virtually guarantee that you will be depressed, not only because you will not be connected enough but because you will have many failure experiences. Less depressed you will be because you will feel known and understood.

There are always core differences between two people, no matter how good or close you are, and if the relationship is going right those differences surface. The issue then is to identify the differences and negotiate them so that they don’t distance you or kill the relationship. You do that by understanding where the other person is coming from, who that person is, and by being able to represent yourself.

When the differences are known you must be able to negotiate and compromise with them until you find a common ground that works for both. Does this person really need for his/her own well-being? This is a very tough skill for people to learn in our narcissistic culture. Of course, you don’t lose yourself in the process; you make sure you’re also doing enough self-care, to love.

The more you can focus on others and learn to respond and meet their needs, the better you are going to do in love, aware of it as of your own.

What are they really saying, what are they really needing? Depressed people think the only reality is their own depressing reality. The consequence of low self-esteem, every relationship blip is interpreted far too personally as evidence of inadequacy. Quick to feel rejected by a partner, you then believe it is the treatment you fundamentally deserve. But the rejection really originates in you, and the feelings of inadequacy are the depression speaking. Recognize that the internal voice is strong but it’s not real. Talkback to it. “I’m not really being rejected, this isn’t really evidence of inadequacy. I made a mistake.” Or “this isn’t about me, this is something I just didn’t know how to do and now I’ll learn.” When you reframe the situation to something more adequate, you can act again in an effective way and you can find and keep the love that you need.




  • Recognize the difference between limerence and love. Limerence is the psychological state of deep infatuation.
  • Know that love is a learned skill, not something that comes from hormones or emotion particularly. Erich Fromm called it “an act of will.”
  • Learn good communication skills. They are a means by which you develop trust and intensify connection.
  • Focus on the other person. Rather than focus on what you are getting and how you are being treated, read your partner’s need.
  • Help someone else. Depression keeps people so focused on themselves they don’t get outside themselves enough to be able to learn.
  • Develop the ability to accommodate simultaneous reality. The loved one’s reality is as important as your own.
  • Actively dispute your internal messages of inadequacy. Sensitivity to rejection is a cardinal feature of depression.

Recognize that the internal voice is strong but it’s not real. Talkback to it. “I’m not really being rejected, this isn’t really evidence of inadequacy. I made a mistake.” Or “this isn’t about me, this is something I just didn’t know how to do and now I’ll learn.”  When you reframe the situation to something more adequate, you can act again in an effective way and you can find and keep the love that you need.

Author: Ellen McGrath…